Why “Healthy” Looks Different on Every Woman
If you’ve ever looked at another woman and thought, “I wish I looked like her - she’s so healthy,” this one’s for you.
Because here’s the truth: healthy doesn’t have one look, one size, or a specific number on the scale.
Your version of healthy will never look identical to someone else’s - and that’s precisely how it should be.
The common struggle:
Most women spend years chasing someone else’s version of health.
We scroll past influencers with abs and 5 AM routines and feel like we’re not doing enough.
We follow diet rules that don’t fit our lifestyle, then feel like failures when we can’t stick to them.
We compare our bodies to women who live completely different lives - and end up burning out, frustrated, and disconnected from ourselves.
But here’s the thing - “healthy” has layers.
It’s not just your meal plan or how much you weigh.
It’s your sleep, your stress, your energy, your mindset, your relationships, and the way you feel in your body.
Why So Many Women Get It Wrong:
Here’s where most women go wrong:
They only focus on the outside.
They chase a number instead of chasing energy, strength, and confidence.
They copy someone else’s routine.
They forget that what works for one woman might not work for another - especially during perimenopause and beyond.
They ignore their season of life.
Your body at 35 doesn’t respond like it did at 25. Hormones, stress, sleep, and recovery all play a role.
They mistake “doing more” for progress.
They push harder, restrict more, and wonder why they feel worse - not better.
The Truth:
Your healthiest body is the one that feels calm, strong, nourished, and consistent.
It’s the one that lets you play with your kids, wake up rested, and enjoy food without guilt.
It’s not the most petite body you’ve ever had - it’s the one that lets you live your life fully.
And it’s built by habits you can actually sustain.
Because health isn’t a finish line.
It’s a daily choice to fuel your body, move it, rest it, and treat it with respect.
3 Steps to Redefine “Healthy” for YOU
Step 1: Audit Your Energy
Ask yourself: do I feel vibrant or drained most days?
Track how you sleep, eat, move, and handle stress - your energy tells you everything you need to know.
Step 2: Build Your Baseline Habits
Focus on the foundations first: protein, fibre, strength training, hydration, and sleep.
Once these are consistent, then fine-tune the details.
Step 3: Stop Comparing, Start Listening
Comparison pulls you away from your body’s wisdom.
Start noticing how your choices make you feel - not how they make you look.
Your body’s feedback is more accurate than any influencer’s advice.
When you stop chasing someone else’s version of healthy, you finally permit yourself to find your own.
And that’s where the magic happens.
If you’re ready to discover what “healthy” truly looks like for you — in your 30s, 40s, and beyond — join me inside Thrive with Tess, where we rebuild your health from the inside out.